Motivation and excitement have few rivals when it comes to feel-good sensations. When you set out on the project or trip of a lifetime, that on-top-of-the-world feeling seems invincible. Somehow, we believe we will always feel this amazing.
Only, the human body doesn’t work like that, unfortunately for us. What goes up, must come down, and that includes our seemingly untouchable good moods. We can’t avoid our positive attitude falling off a cliff sometimes, so the best we can do is cope. Coping doesn’t necessarily feel good, but it still keeps us in a better place than if we succumbed to feeling low and allowing it to spiral.
Somehow, coping in dark times has turned into a vision of yoga, healthy eating, and mindfulness. I’m not going to bash them, they are all wonderful activities that help us a great deal if we choose to invest our time in them. But when we are at the lowest of the low, the drive to do these activities is well out of our reach.
If the only energy we can muster is to watch TV and make ourselves toast for every meal, all we have are our thoughts. Allowing them free reign can be dangerous sometimes, so here are a few things to program our brains to repeat when all else fails:
I’m Still Doing Well, Today
Not being productive can be a terribly productive activity. Recharging our batteries is a necessary step to getting things done later. By taking care of ourselves, we are doing ourselves and our goals justice. Even if we don’t feel like we are.
By reminding ourselves that rest and mental recuperation is necessary, we can allow ourselves to feel more at ease. When we watch the rest of the world go by, especially if people close to us are celebrating milestones and achievements, it’s easy to feel as though we aren’t doing enough. No matter who they are or what they’ve done with their lives, they have had days like this, too. Our day to celebrate is coming, and these down times are inevitable in reaching them.
I’m Still Doing Well If I’m Like This Tomorrow
Don’t we all live in hope that our down days are only limited to the twenty-four hours in which they started? That maybe sleep will wipe the slate clean, and we will wake up tomorrow feeling much better? Sometimes it happens, and it’s a great feeling. Sometimes, we need a little longer.
If it takes us days, weeks, or longer, we must remember that no matter how long these feelings last, we are still doing well. Healing and recuperation doesn’t have a timer that goes off when it’s all over. As much as we wish we could feel amazing again right this second, if we need more time, we must allow it.
No matter how long it takes, we will get our mojo back!
I’m Not Choosing To Feel This Way
This one needs a bit of context. Maybe this thought makes us feel a bit out of control, but that’s not a bad thing. Letting our feelings ride themselves out is positive. Even if we aren’t consciously aware of it, maybe our brains are working through some things behind the scenes. Fighting it will invalidate our feelings, even if we haven’t chosen them, and slow progress that will help us come out the other side.
Social media is peppered with people who insist that all we need to succeed is a perpetually positive attitude, and that alone will carry us through. This phenomenon has a name now: toxic positivity. It’s unhealthy to deny our low feelings, because then we cannot give them what they need to resolve themselves.
These are my personal experiences with feeling down, and may not suit everyone. But no matter how you cope, listen to yourself and your feelings. It might not give you the warm, bubbly feels you’re searching for, but if you’re kind to yourself now, that stuff will come later.
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